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sgh2022
This is my second baby and my mom wants to throw a baby sprinkle for this one as she didn’t get to host the first one. I’m working on the invitations and having a hard time wording some things. I already put that gifts are not required and that their company is all that’s needed but if they wanted, how do I politely ask people instead of gifts, to help fund us for the birthing center. We are in a tight financial situation right now so we could really use the extra help otherwise I wouldn’t ask. Any help would be appreciated.
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"We are thrilled to celebrate the impending arrival of our little one! In lieu of traditional gifts, we kindly ask for contributions to support the costs of our birth center and medical bills. Your generosity will mean the world to us as we embark on this new journey together. Thank you for your love and support!"
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@KMS2021,
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Nri68
I'm making this up here but hopefully it helps haha
Your presence instead of presents is preferred.
Please come celebrate the soon to be new addition to our family.
As we have done this before, we have what we need but if you want to gift something to our bundle of joy, assisting with hospital bills will make his/her start a little more of a thrill.
Can't wait to see you all, all our love
The (lastname)'s
I dunno 🤷♀️😄
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sgh2022
@Nri68,
thank you❤️
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mmet2021
if you’re mom is throwing it, have her word the invitation. That’s a big ask and might not be well received especially if the expectant mom is the one sending out invites. Comes off like “please don’t buy us diapers or onesies. We need hundreds of dollars for our medical bills.” Sprinkles are intended to celebrate and give a little extra love to second or third babies, not fund a medical expense.
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sgh2022
@mmet2021,
exactly why I’m not asking for gifts because we already have everything we need from our last baby. But instead, if they insist, I’m asking for help in a time of need. I don’t see anything wrong with that, especially when you know you have amazing family and friends that understand that times are tough in this economy��
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sgh2022
wow, I’m sorry you feel that way. Unfortunately, You don’t know my story and for you to feel the need to comment that I can’t afford my child is beyond hateful and insensitive. This group is all about encouraging and helping all moms not tearing them down based on their financial situation. My kids will always have their needs met (plus some) but that doesn’t mean it’s not hard sometimes. Like I’ve said multiple times I made it clear that gifts are not necessary and that I just believe every baby deserves to be celebrated. And if you still feel like that’s “tacky” then you’re simply someone who I would not invite to my baby’s celebration.
All my friends have had showers for every single one of their children and I never thought anything other then pure excitement for them and jumped on the opportunity to help them with whatever they needed and they do the same. It takes a village and mine is so great! I hope your heart softens and you realize vulnerability is a good thing and you shouldn’t be judged for it.
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MrsMommmy
Hi Mommy, I love what the first mommy said but instead of saying what the cash is for, which can somewhat put pressure on the guests rather say ... 'In lieu of traditional gifts, we kindly ask for cash contributions of any value' ...
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lucygoose10
I would re-think this and try to come up with a few gift ideas. Some people will feel uncomfortable if the only option is to give you cash. Maybe do a small registry from wal mart or target and include gift cards as an option. If you have more people than gifts on the registry, you will likely get some cards. Then you can use them to buy things you buy every month anyway and then put aside the money you save for the medical bills.
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sgh2022
@lucygoose10,
that’s good input, thank you! My registry has a fund option so it’s a lot more relaxed than hading me cash. (I would feel uncomfortable also��) I will definitely add other options as well if people insist on getting a gift. Thanks again!
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Dreuh
Wow. Please don’t listen to the person saying it sounds tacky and can come off as a cash grab. Times are tough but if a friend or family member mentioned where they need money the most I would most definitely understand and honor that. Maybe those think that way because that’s how they would perceive it from a loved one which is sad. I hope your sprinkle goes well ��
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sgh2022
@Dreuh,
thank you! I appreciate you!❤️
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kwes1219
As a person who typically isn’t a huge fan of second showers/sprinkles myself, I don’t think what you are asking is weird or tacky at all! Especially since you aren’t ASKING, it seems like you are just saying hey come celebrate but if you feel the need/want to support, help support our birth center” as a guest, I would much prefer to support a pregnancy aspect and/or important experience for a second time around then another expensive tangible item that they likely already have! I also would rather know that it was for a birth center (or other specific- education find, etc) versus just asking for cash contributions myself. Goodluck momma!
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sgh2022
@kwes1219,
exactly! The last thing I want to do is ask for money, but giving them specifics on what we would need if they really insist on getting us something seems pretty genuine to me����♀️
Thank you for your support! I wish you and your pregnancy the best of luck❤️
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Existence33
My cousin did a digital wedding invite and instead of a registry she posted a picture of the country and hotel he and his wife want to Honey moon and have donation amounts listed With tiny note. Because of the way she did it didn’t need much wording, it was basically telling you. Maybe you could do the same thing create a digital baby shower and provide a link to the birthing center and the option to donate.
Honestly I can’t speak for anyone else but if someone asked for this instead of gifts I would not feel awkward weird pressured or like you can’t afford your child I would feel like you’re being realistic and smart and would have no problem at all helping. I don’t care how much you make having a child is expensive, it doesn’t mean you can’t afford the child it just means if you’re insisting on helping this would help us more then anything, and it would be smart, especially in this economy.
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sgh2022
@Existence33,
that’s such a wonderful idea, thank you!❤️
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